My third grader came home from school and told me:
"Hey Mom, Mrs. Jones gave everyone 4 cookies today at school for testing. Except me because I can't have them. So she let me pick from the treasure box and I got this." (She shows me 4 random pieces of candy from the treasure box.)
I'm so sad about this. It is a heavy weight.
My daughter does not eat wheat or gluten. She is not celiac, and she is not allergic. We have found that eating wheat causes her to be overly emotional and angry, in a way that she can not control. It's something that makes us all pretty unhappy when it's happening. Because it is a personal preference with no medical documentation to support us, I do not ask for a documented classroom accommodation. I simply speak with each teacher and explain the situation. (My older daughter has allergies, and we know how to ask for accommodations.)
It makes me sad that the teacher chose to bring in a treat to share with the class that she knew would exclude one child. It makes me sad that it happens frequently. Gluten free treats are so easily come by these days, it takes very little extra effort to include my daughter. Or to use a non-food treat.
I could use a pep talk right now. Send me a little hope that the world is compassionate. That there are people out there who understand how big of an emotional impact it takes to be constantly excluded from the classroom celebrations and treats, to be different. Other than this tendency, the teacher really does seem fabulous...
But today. Today it's feeling pretty overwhelming to confront one more time my kiddo was excluded from the group. Because I know how sensitive she is to it, and how upsetting it is to her...
So. How about that pep talk?